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The promise of mushroom-barley soup

December 20, 2016 by Beth Shepherd

Eight years ago today, my friend Dee passed away. We’d been friends for 44 years when she died. She is the only person in my life whose friendship spanned so many decades, the only friend who knew me from when I was a grade-schooler through when I was an adult. She knew me when my sister got cancer, when my father had a stroke. We were roommates in college and she saw me through many unhappy relationships and, thankfully, lived long enough to see me finally land in a happy one. Even though we lived on opposite sides of the country, she knew me intimately, what I struggled with, what I loved. I think about this—and her—a lot.

my friend

Even though we grew up across the street from each other, our families couldn’t have been more different. Her family was Catholic, mine was Jewish. I had one sibling and she had ten. I will never forget sitting on my front lawn, at age six, watching as one bed after another and yet another was moved into their house. Her parents ran a tight ship, which came as no surprise given her father’s naval background and the necessity with so many children living under one roof. They had chores with rotating schedules, someone always on tap to do the dishes or rake the leaves. My house was loosey-goosey. It’s not that I wasn’t expected to do my share, but I had much more freedom. When we were grown-up, she told me that she always felt envious of all the free time I enjoyed.

From my side of the street, I was envious of the camaraderie. She always had someone to play with, someone to talk to. When my sister got cancer and my dad had a stroke, I was only 12-years-old. I remember going to her house, especially during the holidays, and there was so much going on, so much noise and laughter, so much jostling and joshing, unlike my house where I had to be careful and quiet—half my family was sick, or just find a way to entertain myself. Our formative experiences were the polar opposite.

my friend Dee

Which is why—looking back—I am always amazed that as adults, we hit it off so well. We had similar sensibilities and values. We both loved thrift stores, yard sales, and free piles. We both felt refreshed by a walk in the woods, and inspired by a good book. And we both loved to cook.

Of all the food we cooked together, Moosewood’s Mushroom Barley Soup became our signature dish. I can’t remember why. I’m not sure if we we made this recipe more than other Moosewood recipes (and we sure tried a lot of them), or if we liked it best, but over the years it became ours.

The last time I saw Dee, a year before she died, this is the soup she made when we visited her home near Boston. Of all Dee’s endearing traits (and there were many), one that stood out was her uncanny ability to pick just the right gift for those she loved, whether it was something for your birthday or Christmas or a special meal like this one. Her family members, her husband, and those of us lucky enough to have her as a close friend, were all the recipients of her incredible graciousness and thoughtfulness.

Moosewood soup

I miss my friend. Hers was an irreplaceable friendship. So I keep making our soup. It reminds me of her, and of the beauty and fragility of life and friendship. When I take a sip, warmth fills my belly and my heart. The world feels a little closer. That’s the promise of mushroom-barley soup.

It’s all about the journey,

Beth

If you want to give the recipe a try, you can find it in a blog post I wrote in 2009: Mushroom Barley Soup for the Soul.

Filed Under: Food, Friendship Tagged With: Moosewood, Mushroom Barley Soup

Seven year soup

December 20, 2015 by Beth Shepherd

When you’re down and troubled
And you need some love and care
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest night

~Carol King, You’ve Got A Friend

Dee-and-me

I count myself lucky. I’ve had many wonderful friendships in my lifetime, but I was especially blessed to have had this one. One friend who knew me from the time I was a little girl until the time I was a grown and married woman. Forty-four years of friendship. Neighbors across the street when we were six and college housemates when we were twenty.

Housemates and friends. Me and Dee. Living together. Cooking together.

I still love to cook and I’m certain the roots of my passion go back to the days when Dee and I scoured the Moosewood Cookbook for recipes. The first edition was published in 1977, the year I graduated from high school. Moosewood was the seminal vegetarian cookbook.  And–lucky us–since Moosewood Restaurant was just down the hill from the house we rented in Ithaca, NY.

As Cornell University undergraduates, we didn’t dine out very often and, when we did, it was a huge treat. Most of the time we cooked Moosewood recipes in our tiny kitchen on College Avenue. Spanakopita. Vegetable Stroganoff. Cauliflower Cheese Pie with grated Potato Crust. Countless simple, delicious recipes.

But the undeniable favorite, our signature dish if you will, was Mushroom Barley Soup. It was the first soup I ever shared with Dee and also the last. She made this soup for Joel and I, when we visited her home outside Boston, a year before she died from breast cancer.

On this day, for seven years now, I make this soup and remember her. Life may be short, but the memory of a good friend lives on.

Dee and Beth

Ain’t it good to know, you’ve got a friend.

Mushroom Barley Soup from the Moosewood Cookbook

Serves 8

Ingredients

  • 1/2 cup uncooked pearl barley
  • 3 tablespoons butter
  • 1/2-1 teaspoon salt
  • 3-4 tablespoons tamari  or soy sauce
  • 4 tablespoons dry sherry
  • 6-1/2 cups stock or water
  • 1 medium onion, chopped
  • 2 medium cloves garlic, minced
  • 1 lb fresh mushrooms, sliced
  • fresh ground black pepper

Preparation

  1. Cook barley in 1-1/2 cups of the stock or water in a large saucepan or Dutch oven. Bring to a boil, cover and simmer until barley is tender (20-30 minutes). Add remaining stock or water, tamari and sherry.
  2. Meanwhile, melt the butter in a skillet. Add the onions and garlic. Sauté for about 5 minutes over medium heat. Add mushrooms, and salt. Cover and cook, stirring occasionally, until everything is very tender (about 10-12 minutes).
  3. Add the sauté with all its liquid to the cooked barley. Add fresh ground black pepper to taste and simmer, partially covered, for another 20 minutes.

Just like my friendship, the Moosewood Cookbook is over forty years old. Last fall, 2014, The Moosewood Cookbook: 40th Year Edition was published. I’ve read that some of the recipes have changed from the original 1977 edition. You can buy it here:

Filed Under: Food, Friendship, Recipes Tagged With: Moosewood Cookbook, Mushroom Barley Soup

The heart of food

December 18, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

Only the pure in heart can make a good soup.

– Ludwig van Beethoven

Food and love. For me the two go hand in hand. And, no, this isn’t a post about romantic moonlit dinners.

With many of my close friendships and family members, I have a clear memory of a dish, a drink, a meal or a restaurant that comes to mind whenever I think of them. There’s my friend Alice and Thanksgiving (oh that mouth-watering turkey), my college housemates and artichokes (what a big deal they made about me being “an artichoke virgin”), my Aunt Sue and her amazing paella (the woodsy Cape Cod backdrop didn’t hurt either), my father with his pickles and kraut, Big Papa and Shepherd’s Pie (looking forward to setting off the smoke alarm for the eighth year running). And then there’s Dee and Moosewood’s Mushroom Barley Soup.

There is so much wrapped up in that savory bowl of soup. Memories from my college days and my first taste of independence, a time in food history when being a “vegetarian” was still considered trendy, even revolutionary (Moosewood Cookbook really broke new ground), and how the loss of those most close to us remains deeply embedded in our hearts (the last time Dee cooked Mushroom Barley Soup for Big Papa and me was the last time I saw her).

Holidays hold especially keen food memories for most of us: the almond-spritz cookies we made with our mom at Christmas, Easter egg chocolates hiding under backyard bushes, a recipe for eggnog or crown roast that distinguishes your family from any other. We are indeed what we eat…and who we eat it with.

So this Friday, December 20, I’ll be filling my belly with Mushroom Barley Soup. And filling my heart with love for my friend, who passed away five years ago on that day.

Mushroom Barley Soup

Mushroom Barley Soup from the Moosewood Cookbook

Serves 8

Ingredients

1/2 cup uncooked pearl barley
3 tablespoons butter
1/2-1 teaspoon salt
3-4 tablespoons tamari  or soy sauce
4 tablespoons dry sherry
6-1/2 cups stock or water
1 medium onion, chopped
2 medium cloves garlic, minced
1 lb fresh mushrooms, sliced
fresh ground black pepper

Preparation
Cook barley in 1-1/2 cups of the stock or water in a large saucepan or Dutch oven. Bring to a boil, cover and simmer until barley is tender (20-30 minutes). Add remaining stock or water, tamari and sherry.

Meanwhile, melt the butter in a skillet. Add the onions and garlic. Sauté for about 5 minutes over medium heat. Add mushrooms, and salt. Cover and cook, stirring occasionally, until everything is very tender (about 10-12 minutes).

Add the sauté with all its liquid to the cooked barley. Add fresh ground black pepper to taste and simmer, partially covered, for another 20 minutes. Serve with a slice of hearty bread.

Take the road less traveled, Beth

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Filed Under: Friendship Tagged With: Dee, Food, heart, love, Moosewood, Moosewood Cookbook, Mushroom Barley Soup

Remlinger Farms

October 16, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

Remlinger Farms

Carousel, ferris wheel, hay maze, animals to pet…and a birthday party with LOTS of sugar. That’s how Baby Bird and I spent this past Saturday during our visit to Remlinger Farms in Carnation, Washington.

Remlinger Farms carousel

I knew Remlinger Farms as a U-Pick haven: strawberries, blueberries and raspberries in the summer and pumpkins in the fall. What I didn’t know is that their Country Fair Fun Park has over 25 rides and attractions geared especially for children.

Remlinger Farms animals

Here’s what little ones can choose from:

  • Swing Carousel: painted ponies go round and round
  • Hay Maze: get lost and jump in bales of hay
  • Ferris Wheel: kid-sized carts go around in a circle
  • Farm Theater with Eric Ode: songwriter, author, and poet
  • Farm Theater with Cyndi Soup: singer, songwriter, story teller and puppeteer Cyndi Soup
  • Flying Pumpkin Rides: flying pumpkins with bob up and down
  • Canoe River: kids float their own canoes on the river
  • Barrel Ride: each barrel spins, while all the barrels go round and round
  • Pedal Cars: pedal car track, with twists and turns, and a bridge high above the track
  • Tolt River Railroad Steam Train Ride: a half-sized steam train that takes you along the Tolt River and around Remlinger Farms property and past 4-H animal enclosures
  • Remlinger Farms Roller Coaster: a deluxe kid size roller coaster
  • 4-H Animal Barnyard: goats, horses, piggies, cows, alpaca, sheep, bunnies, donkeys
  • Farm Pony Trail Ride: little ones can be led through the scenic pony “trail ride” area
  • Antique Car & Country Driving Adventure: kids drive real  miniature Ford Model T cars (circa 1900 and created for the 1962 Seattle World’s Fair) antique cars around a safe, railed track

Remlinger Farms hay maze

And if that’s not enough to fill up a day (or an entire weekend!), there are also private rooms that can be rented for parties and events, which is why we were there in the first place–to celebrate the birthday of one of Baby Bird’s favorite toddler partners in crime. Pizza, party cake, ice cream, soft drinks, balloons, party favor bags, hats…all of it was included for a gaggle of excited kids.

Two hat girl

As a mom to a child who doesn’t get a lot of sugary snacks, let me just say that shortly after the cake and [two!] cups of ice cream were consumed–well, that’s when the party really got started. This was my first experience with a room full of children hopped-up on sugar. Stand back! The rest of our time at Remlinger Farms was high-octane.

We raced around from activity to activity until we [the parents at least] were ready to crash. And then, with a belly full of food and memories of a fun morning spent at Remlinger Farms, we headed home.

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Three girls running color

Filed Under: Food, Friendship Tagged With: animals, birthday parties, Carnation, carousel, Country Fair Fun Park, ferris wheel, hay maze, pumpkins, Remlinger Farms, u-pick

The Fish Guys

October 9, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

Excited to see the fish guys “The Fish Guys are up in the fan,” Baby Bird stated matter-of-factly a month or so ago, at dinner.

Making cards for The Fish Guys“What?!”

“The Fish Guys are up in the fan. Look,” she said again pointing to our kitchen ceiling.

Ah, the minds of children.  Since that evening, it seems that The Fish Guys have taken up residence in our ceiling fan, because she mentions them a least once a day. Not that this is a surprise. Baby Bird loves The Fish Guys. She gets really excited when we head to our neighborhood farmers market for a visit.

Dave, Tim and Gene have become Baby Bird’s best buddies. Each and every Friday afternoon during the summer, I make a pilgrimage with my daughter to the Madrona Farmers Market, where she hits The Fish Guys up for free smoked salmon samples at Wilson’s Fish stand (along with free beans to munch on from Rand at One Leaf Farm).

Fish cardsAfter she’s chowed down as much salmon as they’ll allow her to take (yes, she frequently cleans out the Tupperware container), we move on to the ice holding portion of the visit. This is where she takes out a large chunk of ice from the cooler, licks it and then watches it melt in her hand (or mine when she hands it to me to “take home to Dada”). She’ll exclaim “BRR! Cold,” while holding shaking her fists like she’s freezing (or very excited).

Dave the fish guyTim the fish guyThe Fish Guys laugh and play along, joking and laughing with her. I always have a smile on my face because I love knowing my daughter is forming happy memories of being at the farmers market, just like I did as a child. She gets to eat veggies and fruit straight off the farm, and get to know the growers (and fishermen) who make it possible for us to enjoy delicious fresh food.

Sampling smoked fishSeeing The Fish Guys is the high point in our week, which is why I was sad that our neighborhood farmers market season came to a close. How could I explain to Baby Bird that we might not see The Fish Guys for several months, at least at the Madrona Farmers Market. I told her that we could make occasional treks to the Sunday Ballard Farmers Market for a special visit, but they wouldn’t be blocks away from where we live. At least until next May. Minutes, hours and days are a big concept for a two year old, much less months and seasons.

Getting ice from the fish guysOn this last visit, we brought The Fish Guys a thank you fish card, and I purchased my “usual,” a pound of fresh salmon to grill, along with wine and maple smoked salmon which we sprinkle on salads and toss in omelets. We never cease to be amazed at the deliciousness of their fish. It is the freshest, tastiest, melt-in-your-mouth fish I’ve ever had, absolutely worth the couple extra dollars per pound I might save if I bough fish at my neighborhood grocery store. It truly is that good.

Ice from the fish guysPlus, we get to spend a few minutes with the fish guys. And that is priceless. Now if we could just figure out what they’re doing in our fan!

 

Take the road less traveled, Beth

For more fish stories and other great food, check out Wanderfood Wednesday!

Licking ice from the fish guys

Filed Under: Food, Friendship, Garden Tagged With: Gene Panida, Madrona Farmers Market, One Leaf Farm, The Fish Guys, Wilson's Fish

Lovely Lancaster

August 22, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

We spent a long weekend in lovely Lancaster, Pennsylvania. Green rolling hill, cows dotting the landscape, horses pulling buggies, and Amish men and women dressed in plain, simple clothing.

“Miracles come after a lot of hard work.”
~Sue Bender, Plain and Simple: A Journey to the Amish

Lancaster landscape

Lancaster Red barn roof

Lancaster wagon wheels

Lancaster corn

Lancaster lady

Lancaster quilts and buggy

Lancaster old house

Lancaster barn, tree, corn

Lancaster sunset

Want to see more simple beauty? Check out Delicious Baby Photo Friday!

Filed Under: Adoption, Friendship, Travel Tagged With: Amish, cows, Lancaster, Pennsylvania, plain and simple, quilts, Sue Bender

Armenian feast in Amish country?

August 20, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

Armenian kebab

We recently spent a weekend in lovely Lancaster, Pennsylvania, attending a reunion for families with children adopted from Armenia. Who would think we would find an Armenia feast in the middle of the Amish countryside? But find a feast we did!

Armenian dolma

Armenian Delight from Broomall, Pennsylvania cooked up delicious dolma, kebab, tabouli, kufta and, of course, pakhlava. I ate every bite off my plate, got seconds, and reminisced about all the amazing food we enjoyed in Armenia.

Armenian tabouli

Pakhlava

I’ve cooked a number of Armenian dishes, but have yet to try making kufteh at home. Not for long! Here’s a recipe for Vospov (Merjimek) Kufteh with thanks to Bev, Aunt Rose and the Armenian Memorial Church in Watertown, Massachusetts.

Armenian kufteh

Vospov (Merjimek) Kufteh

Ingredients

  • 1 cup split red lentils
  • 3 cups water
  • 1 tsp salt
  • 1tsp red pepper
  • 1 cup medium bulgur
  • 1/2 cup butter or margarine, melted
  • 1 medium onion chopped
  • 2 scallions, chopped
  • 1/2 sweet green pepper, chopped
  • 2 cups parsley, chopped
How to:
  1. Boil lentils 30 minutes in the water (will look pasty).
  2. Add salt ad red pepper and additional water, if needed and boil 2 minutes longer.
  3. Put bulgur in a large basin and pour lentils over it.  Mix, cover, and let cool one hour.
  4. Brown the onion in the melted butter or margarine add add to the bulgur/lentil mixture.
  5. When cool enough to handle, knead 5 minutes until well-blended.
  6. Mix in the chopped vegetables and add more salt and red pepper to taste.
  7. Shape into individual servings by squeezing a portion against the palm of your hand gently with your fingers.
  8. Serve while still warm.
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Filed Under: Food, Friendship Tagged With: Amish, Armenian, Armenian Delight, Bakhlava, Broomall, Dolma, kabab, kufteh, Lancaster, Pakhlava, recipe, reunion, tabouli

You are my sunshine

July 28, 2013 by Beth Shepherd

When Big Papa and I got married, we took the same vows that many people take when they commit to spend a lifetime together: for better, for worse; for richer, for poorer; in sickness and in health; till death do us part. And, like most newly married couples, we hoped for health, better and richer. The rest—poorer, sickness, death—seemed a long ways off.

But for my sister and several close friends there was sickness, and death. A year-and-a-half after we became husband and wife, my sweet friend Dee passed away, and her husband became a widower. Last year, on the day of our five-year anniversary, another friend’s husband died unexpectedly.  This year, on Valentine’s Day, my sister took her last breath, leaving behind husband and a daughter.

Each of these losses reminds me how life can change in an instant, and just how precious the days are with those we love. That is why on this– our sixth anniversary–I am even more appreciative when I wake up in the morning with Big Papa by my side.

Dedicated to Jay, Lesa and Gaylen

And with love to Big Papa on our anniversary. You are my sunshine.

Filed Under: Friendship Tagged With: death, Elizabeth Mitchell, sickness, vows, wedding, You are my sunshine

When you wish upon a star

November 21, 2012 by Beth Shepherd

Sitting by the lakeThis morning I read Baby Bird a new book, Olivia and the Fairy Princess. She loves the original Olivia and I’d heard great reports about this book too. In this book, Olivia is having an identity crisis. There are too many ruffled, sparkly princesses around. She wants to do more than just fit in. She wants to stand out. At the end of the story, as Olivia lies in bed unable to sleep, she starts imagining who she could be.

I read aloud to my daughter:

Maybe I could be a nurse and devote myself to the sick and elderly. I could use my brothers to practice bandaging and various other treatments.

Then I turned the page and continued:

Or maybe adopt orphans from all over the world.

I stopped, took a deep breath, and finished reading the book.

As the day went along I found that I couldn’t stop thinking about this one sentence.  I had a something else in mind to post today, but now I feel compelled to write about this.

There are many fairy tales with an adoptee in the storyline: Cinderella, Snow White, Pinocchio, and Bambi; the list goes on and on. And, as we all know, there is always a happy ending with the protagonist fulfilling his or her dreams, securing a warm home (if not a castle), finding true love, everlasting happiness, and being accepted as part of a healthy, loving family.

When you wish upon a star
Makes no difference who you are
Anything your heart desires
Will come to you

If your heart is in your dream
No request is too extreme
When you wish upon a star
As dreamers do

Fate is kind
She brings to those who love
The sweet fulfillment of
Their secret longing

 

 

 

Like a bolt out of the blue
Fate steps in and sees you through
When you wish upon a star
Your dreams come true

But the truth is that life—for many– is quite unlike the Disney fantasy. It does make a difference who you are, anything your heart desires may not come to you, and fate is frequently unkind. And there are millions of people, not just orphans, who are unable to find a place to lay their head at night, a meal to fill their belly, and family and friends to love and care for them.

Sometimes, I feel selfish that we chose to shower time, money and attention on making a difference for one, when there are so many in need.  It was truly heartbreaking to spend a great deal of time in several orphanages, and see children whose lives are never going to be filled with the opportunities our daughter will have.

For whatever challenges I’ve had or might face, my life is indeed blessed. I live in a beautiful city, inside a cute house with a lovely garden filled with color and nature. Each night I fall asleep in my own bed beside my wonderful husband. While I have lost several friends and family members who were dear to me, I have many incredible friends who sustain me and a family who loves me. I am healthy and fit and eat delicious meals on most nights. I’m able to indulge my interests in photography, gardening, cooking, and writing. I have been able to fulfill some of my dreams: to travel, to marry and to become a mom.

I am one lucky girl.

Happy Thanksgiving to my family, my friends and those of you who faithfully read my blog.

To Big Papa: There are no words to really say how deeply grateful I am to share my life with you.

To Baby Bird: May this, your first Thanksgiving, be the foundation for a life with many more.

 

For each new morning with its light, for rest and shelter of the night, for health and food, for love and friends, for everything Thy goodness sends.

~Ralph Waldo Emerson

Filed Under: Family, Food, Friendship, Garden, Holiday, Travel Tagged With: Olivia and the Fairy Princesses, orphans, Thanksgiving

Who says you can’t take it with you?

November 19, 2012 by Beth Shepherd

Biohazard specimen bag

Around the time I was 12, I rode my bike into the front steps of the house across the street, the house where my friend Dee lived. I fell from the bike and my knee hit pavement and gravel. After I limped back to our house, I washed my knee and attempted to get as much of the gravel out as I could.

Flash forward several years: I still had a scar on my knee, a constant reminder of my fall. And, from what I could tell, inside the scar was a small rock. Or at least that’s what I thought.

Decades passed and the scar became a small bump on the front of my patella. It would bother me when I shaved my legs and I’d run my fingers back and forth over the top of it. On occasion, someone would ask me about it and I’d tell them the story of the bicycle accident, the fall, and the rock. No one ever seemed to make much of it, and I wondered if they believed me. I started to question the story I’d told myself, and others, for so many years.

Last year, during a visit to my dermatologist, I relayed the story of the accident and the rock. He laughed, “You don’t think there’s really a rock in there after all that time? It’s probably scar tissue. I’ll inject it with some cortisone and it will shrink.”

So he did. But it didn’t. In fact, from what I could tell, the scar and the bump were getting bigger.

Along came my daughter, who instantly expressed a distinct fascination with the “owie” on my knee. She would look it, and point to it, and as soon as she learned the word “ow,” she would touch my knee and say “OW.”

I made another appointment with my dermatologist. “Don’t you think it’s gotten bigger?” I asked anxiously.

“Maybe,” he replied. “It’s probably scar tissue and I can inject it with some cortisone and it will shrink.”But since you seem concerned, I can also take a biopsy just to make sure it’s not a growth of any sort.”

He sent in his nurse, who injected my knee with a numbing anesthetic.

“You’ve got dense scar tissue. I could barely get the needle in.”

Then the doctor came back. He took out his scalpel, made an incision, and took out a small piece of flesh to biopsy. He was just about to put a couple sutures in my knee, when…

“You know what? I think I see a rock. I’m going to try to remove it.”

He fished around in my knee for a few seconds. Out came the rock.

“That’s the first time I’ve ever delivered a rock.”

“Wow! How cool is that,” I yelped.

I looked at the tiny gray rock, maybe a quarter-inch long, probably a piece of New York shale.  There was nothing noteworthy about this rock from my home town, except for the fact that it had been in my knee for over forty years.

“I can’t wait to take it home and show my husband.”

“You can’t.”

“What do you mean I can’t?”

“The rock is considered foreign material that is part of the biopsy. If I give you the rock, I have to throw out the biopsy. I can’t send it to the lab without the rock.

“You’re kidding, right?”

“No, I’m serious.”

“But it’s been in my knee for forty years. I’ve told so many people this story. No one ever seemed to believe me. Now I have proof.”

“Sorry.”

I was really sad. I wanted my rock. But I also wanted to know the results of the biopsy so I left the dermatologists office…and I left my rock behind.

On the drive home the situation continued to irk me, so when I got back to my house, I immediately picked up the phone and called my doctor’s office. Nurse G., his assistant, answered and was sympathetic when I pleaded: Is there anything you can do? She said she’d try.

Sure enough, Nurse G. contacted the lab, and called me back to tell me that my dermatologist could request to have the rock returned to his patient. She assured me she would submit the request and said the rock would be ready for me to take home at my follow-up appointment. As silly as it may sound, I was elated.

Two weeks passed while I waited. I thought a lot about my hometown, my childhood, the house across the street where my friend Dee lived, one of the closest friends I’ve ever had, a friend who left this world too soon.

I thought about the tales we tell, sometimes over and over, and how we weave a bit of ourselves into our stories. I remembered the jokes my father would share, and the stories too, many of them about his time spent in the Merchant Marine as the ship’s purser and medic, or working on the Al-Can highway. Some of his stories were pretty gruesome and many of the jokes were-–to put it mildly–off-color. I could tell he liked those stories the best, because he would repeat them again and again and again. Of course these are the stories I remember best. And now, when I think about the rock, I get it.

On the day of the appointment, just before the doctor came in to see me, Nurse G. handed over a plastic biohazard bag and my lab report, which read: Scar tissue with foreign body.  Inside the biohazard bag was a plastic specimen jar, and inside the jar was my rock, my rock, a little piece me.

Rock from my knee

Filed Under: Family, Friendship Tagged With: dad, dermatologist, rock, stories, upstate New York

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