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Oh my, Oh my, Oh–Dada

June 14, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

 Dada for hugging.

Hugging dada

And Dada for hiding.

Dada hiding

Dada for jumping.

Dada jumping

And Dada for lying.

Dada lounger

Dada for running.

Dada keeping up

And Dada for tears.

Unhappy baby

Dada who’s wearing fuzzy yak ears.

Yak dada

Dada for dressing.

Dada dressing

And Dada for dining.

Dada in the highchair

Dada for super upside-down flying.

Upside down baby

Dada for excitement.

Dada excited

And Dada for giggles.

Monster Dada

Dada for holding you still while you wiggle.

Dada brushing teeth

Dada in purple, green, orange or blue.

Purple dada

Happy Dad’s Day, Big Papa. You’re such a cool you!

 

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Thank you for the inspiration, Sandra Boynton (Oh my, Oh my, Oh Dinosaurs!)

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: Father's Day

Her first library card

June 4, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Newest Seattle Library member with her library card

Who’s got her own library card? Little Bird! Earlier this week, the two of us went on an excursion to Seattle Public Library’s Madrona Branch to get our cards. Library cards have certainly changed since the time I had my last card. For one, you can choose the design on your card: Pike Place Market, the Space Needle, Seattle’s Central Library branch (designed by Rem Koolhaas), Mt. Rainier, a colorful children’s card, and the blue and white generic-looking card. Little Bird picked the Space Needle and I selected Pike Place Market.

After we got our cards and checked out two Mo Willems dvds (Don’t Let the Pigeon Drive the Bus and others) we decided a new library card is most definitely a cause for celebration. And celebrate we did with a scoop of ice cream from Molly Moon’s.

I remember how special trips to the library were for me as a child. I’m so proud that my daughter loves books as much as I did, and hope her journey with books and reading continues to unfold in wondrous ways.

Molly Moon ice cream

Read on Little Bird!

 

When I got my library card, that’s when my life began.

Rita Mae Brown, author

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: ice cream, library, library card, Mo Willems, Molly Moon, Molly Moon's, Mt. Rainier, Pike Place Market, Rem Koolhaas, Seattle Central Library, Seattle Public Library Madrona Branch, Space Needle

Maggie, the cat, celebrates her 19th

May 23, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

There is no such thing as an ordinary cat.

~Collette

Maggie at 19

Yes, this is a post about my cat. But hey, it’s her 19th birthday which, from what I’ve read, is the equivalent of 93 human years. Any living soul, man or beast, who can claim that much life on earth, deserves special recognition in my book. Last year we held a ‘Maggie can vote’ party to celebrate her 18th. This year I’m celebrating that she’s still with us. Just this past week, four of my friends lost their beloved cats, so I know every day I have with her is a gift.

Cat and banana pillow

Maggie (Magnolia) came into my life as a kitten. She was small enough to fit in the palm of my hand. I think she may have been weaned too early, because she took to “nursing” on my arm, which she continued to do for many years. To her, I have always been Mama Cat. She was the second cat in my household. Madison was first, both of them Manx cats and both named after Seattle neighborhoods.

Every pet, just like every human, has their own unique qualities and quirks. And Maggie has hers.

Bathing assistant

She is a very chatty cat. I’ve often thought that if ever there were to be a cat to start speaking, it would be Maggie. She has an immense repertoire of meows, mrps, brrps, and all manner of cat communication. If I say a sentence or two, she replies, then I follow with a few more words and back and forth we go.

Lying on deck

For a cat (as stereotypes go), she is intensely “dog-like,” meaning she is not aloof as one might expect, but instead a companion at-the-ready, wherever we might be: in the shower or bath, at the table, in the office or outside in the garden. We have dubbed her our “Shower Assistant,” and there is always one chair–with her name on it–at the dinner table.

Cat in bed

Then there are her little “routines.” Bedtime, in particular, has a specific order. Jump into bed, stomp around on Big Papa, settle down. When both “Big Kittens” are in bed, and the lights turned off, this is the time to jump down and get a final snack. Then, return and hunker down wedged solidly in between Mama Cat and Papa Cat. If, during the course of the night, there are opportunities to turn sideways and claim more territory, by all means, go for it.

Maggie office work

Maggie always promises she’ll do more office work, but when it comes right down to it, she’s more on task for her many union-mandated breaks. And, should there be any question regarding the pecking order in our household, the photo above clearly shows who wears the pants in our family. Cat on the office chair. Husband on the floor. Makes perfect sense.

One of the most unexpected joys our sweet geriatric kitty has brought to the family, is her acceptance of Little Bird. I wondered how she would handle it when, at 17, her life as the sole child was completely upended when we brought a crying baby into our home. Maggie has been nothing if not patient.

“My ride the cat, Mama.”

“Walkin’ together,” (said with Maggie not even a whisker’s length away).

Maggie or ‘Maggie Moose,’ as Little Bird fondly calls her, has been an awesome ‘big sister,’ so sweet and tolerant.  And Little Bird is utterly delighted by her mere presence. We’re so fortunate that our daughter’s first experience of life in a family with a pet has been so positive. It makes me love our old kitten all the more.

Two cats

Happy Birthday Maggie Moose!

You’ve been by my side–literally–for 19 years. You bring so much joy, laughter and warmth to our hearts and into our lives.

Maggie on the blanket

Take the road less traveled, Beth

 

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: birthday, cat

Duck Friday

May 16, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Splish, splash
I was takin’ a bath
Long about a Saturday night… yeah!
Rub-a-dub
Just relaxin’ in the tub
Thinkin’ everything was all right.

Well… I stepped out the tub
Put my feet on the floor
I wrapped the towel around me
And I opened the door.

And… then-a… splish, splash
I jumped back in the bath
Well… how was I to know
There was a party going on.

~Splish Splash, Bobby Darin

At our house, Friday is ‘Duck Friday.’ Ducks only. In the tub.

Ducks in the tub

Ducks in the tub

Bathing assistant

Bathing assistant (who, I might add, is always on the bath rug when one of us is in the shower or the tub)

Cat in the bathroom

Bathing assistant takes her job seriously

Mama and daughter in the tub

Mama and Little Bird in the tub

Little Bird and her ducks

Little Bird and her ducks

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: bath, bathtub, Ducks, tub

An interview with Little Bird, about Mama

May 14, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Me and Little Bird at the donut

An interview with Little Bird, about Mama

(aka Pampers and Pakhlava)

Q: What’s mama’s favorite color?

A: Pink and purple

 

Q: What does mama like to eat?

A: Strawberries and rice cakes

 

Q: What does mama eat for breakfast?

A: Yogurt and pasta

 

Q: What does mama like to eat for dinner?

A: Mac-n-cheese and ketchup

 

Q: What does mama do when you take a nap?

A: She works

 

Q: What does mama do for work?

A: She writes stuff

 

Q: What does mama write about?

A: A kitty

 

Q: What does mama like to do for fun?

A: Play with me

 

Q: What’s mama’s favorite music?

A: New music

 

Q: In the car, where does she like to go?

A: The old gym

 

Q: What makes mama laugh?

A: When I hug her

 

Q: What is your favorite thing about mama?

A: When she hugs and kisses me!

Thank you to the professionalism of the interviewer (aka Big Papa) for maintaining a straight-face throughout.

Seattle donut Volunteer Park

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: interview, mama

The Commune of Motherhood

May 8, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Friends

During the years when I longed to be a mama, but wasn’t, I felt like an outsider to a secret society: The Commune of Motherhood. I sat–metaphorically–on the sidelines at my neighborhood ‘Moms Night Out’ and ‘Mamas with Cameras‘, a monthly meet-up. I consciously chose to participate in both of these groups, despite my mama-wanna-be status, in an effort to make some mama friends, which I did, before I became an adoptive mom.

Of course, I didn’t think I’d be “expecting” for four years, but that’s how it my journey to motherhood played out. It wasn’t easy to be a fly on the wall as moms debated sleep schedules, shared parenting woes and tips or passed around photos of their adorable children. I was envious.

Being a paper pregnant adoptive mom isn’t the same as being belly pregnant, in a number of ways. For one, nobody “knows,” unless you tell them. Strangers might approach a pregnant woman,even if sometimes she wishes they wouldn’t, and ask “So…when’s the baby due?” I wasn’t sporting a visible bump, so no one had a clue I was hoping to be “in a family way.”

Slowly, while I navigated the interminable wait, I made my way to a small nucleus of moms who had adopted children from Armenia or, like me, were in the process. Some of us found each other through our adoption agency’s closed Yahoo chat group, and one or two contacted me via my blog.

Before I knew any of them, I was an adoptive family lurker. I’d spot an obvious, or so I thought, adoptive family ‘in the wild’ (read: park, grocery store). Occasionally I’d muster up enough courage to say something like, Where’s your child from? Sometimes this tact led to a supportive conversation though not infrequently I ended up with my foot in my mouth: I’m the nanny or My wife is Chinese, said to me, with obvious annoyance, by an older Caucasian dad at a park when I tried to show I was a kindred spirit, “What part of China is your daughter from? My sister adopted a girl from Guangzhou.“

Four years passed before I was able to meet any of these amazing women in person, save one, who coincidentally grew up in Seattle, and even more coincidentally happened to be in Armenia on one of our trips. In the meantime, we emailed each other, sometimes frequently. Threads with a hundred or so emails over the course of a week were not uncommon. Through our email conversations, we became friends, and some of us became very close friends.

These women saw me at my worst, through loss and dark times as I waited and waited and waited. Until one day I was–at long last–a member of the club, wiping my daughter’s snotty nose, shoving morsels of food in her mouth, hoping she wouldn’t fall to her death at the playground. I was a mom just like the rest of them.

So on this, my third Mother’s Day, I want to express gratitude to the Commune of Motherhood, mama friends –adoptive or not–who stood by me before I became a mom, and who keep me afloat now.

And to Sherri, Maribeth, Shelley, Denise, Bev, Theresa, Molly, Vivian, Elizabeth, Jackie, Carrie and Katie: You are my tribe.

Happy Mother’s Day!

Mama and daughter

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: Adoption, Mamas with Cameras, Mother's Day, motherhood, secret society

Golden birthday

May 3, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Turning Three

Guess who’s 3 on the 3rd? Happy Golden Birthday* Baby Bird!

I'm 3

Three! Our girl is growing up. She’s not a Baby Bird anymore–she’s a ‘Little Bird.’

*A golden birthday year is the year when the celebrant turns the age of their birthday. Baby Bird is 3 on the 3d; I was 15 on the 15th. This special birthday is referred to as a “golden birthday.” Since a ‘Golden Birthday’ is sometimes called a champagne birthday (and occasionally a grand birthday, star birthday or lucky birthday), it seems fitting the adults helping Baby Bird celebrate her day, should also enjoy some bubbly!

 Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: birthday, golden birthday

Our family turns 2!

March 22, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

March 22, 2012

Gyumri, Armenia

Mother Armenia Gyumri

Snow and ice covered the ground and temperatures hovered near zero. We spent the morning trying to distract our minds from the wait, the wait to find out if the judge would grant us permission to adopt one tiny 11-month-old baby girl.

Our driver took us to see Mother Armenia. Fitting considering the circumstances.  We climbed the stairs and stood in her shadow. All of Gyumri lay spread out in the distance. We were, literally and figuratively, standing on the precipice of parenthood.

It felt surreal then and it feels surreal now when I remember that day, and everything that led up to that day. Waiting, waiting, waiting. Years of waiting.

Then we got the news. Tears of joy? Yes, absolutely. But also relief, bone-deep relief that we were–finally–parents. And some sadness too, that my father (who passed away, literally two months to the day and hour we became parents) would never know how everything came together, would never meet his granddaughter nor see us as a family.

I also thought about how this decision would impact our daughter–our daughter–sometimes I still marvel at those words. Too young to understand that we were about to become a family, these two people who spent a few weeks playing with her.  Strangers, really, who were committing to a lifetime of nurturing and guiding her…as best we could.

Family

Here we are, two years later. Older, grayer (though leaner and more fit!), maybe a tad wiser, more lines from the stress and frustration that comes with parenthood. How do we handle this? What do we do about that? Navigating things we never dreamed of when we thought about what it would be like to bring a child into our lives.

And here she is. Baby Bird is no longer a baby, but a toddler, growing bigger, stumbling and learning, thriving. Bringing laughter and discovery into our home in ways we never imagined.

The three of us 2014March 22, 2014

Happy Birthday to us–Our family turns 2!

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: Armenia, birthday, court, Family

One book, one pen can change the world: Girl Power

March 7, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Let us pick up our books and our pens. They are our most powerful weapons.

One child, one teacher, one book and one pen can change the world.

~Malala Yousafzai

Amazon bookshelf and little reader

One of the traits I love most about my daughter, is how much she loves books. Some of her love of reading is innate and some is by design. Before we brought her home, there was already a bookshelf, filled with books, waiting for a little girl to discover them. I love books. Instilling that love in my daughter was one of my top priorities as a mom. I believe the written word is powerful.

When I was growing up, reading was my favorite past time. I loved curling up with my book and escaping into the words and worlds I found inside. Writing this post, I thought back to some of the books I enjoyed the most, and was pleased to discover that, in many of them, girls played powerful roles: smart,  inquisitive, brave, adventurous, self-confident. A few of my favorite books, with girl protagonists, were: The Lion, The Witch and The Wardrobe; A Wrinkle in Time; the Nancy Drew Series; and, The Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler. Because I grew up in the 1960s and 70s, before Title IX (which was passed in 1972,  and influenced gender equity in education, far beyond the popular conception that it was only “about sports”), I have to admit I was surprised there were so many books with strong girl role models.

Flash forward to 2014. I am no longer a girl; I’m a woman, a mom. And my daughter is growing up in a world where:

39 million girls worldwide are still not in school (this is 54% of the total number of children).

510 million women are still illiterate worldwide. Women represent two-thirds of the total number of illiterate people.

While educational opportunities for women are on the rise, and illiteracy rates for women are on the decline, women still outnumber men when it comes to lack of education and the ability to read. This is why I want my daughter to find role models, girls and women who are strong, brave, smart, creative, adventurous women. I hope she’ll read some of the books that had such a great impact on me when I was younger, and that she will find new heroines of her own.

On March 8, 2014, International Women’s Day, I think about the future generations of girls and women. My daughter is among them. May they be allowed to discover the power of books and writing. And may they use this power to change the world.

Reading in a rocker

Take the road less traveled, Beth

 

 

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: A Wrinkle in Time, and The Wardrobe, book, books, C.S. Lewis, girl power, International Women's Day, Lucy, Lucy Barfield, Malala Yousafzai, Nancy Drew Series, pen, The Lion, The Mixed-Up Files of Mrs. Basil E. Frankweiler, the White Witch, The Witch, Title IX

Potty training for Bunny

February 6, 2014 by Beth Shepherd

Potty training for Bunny

Bunny going potty

Bunny uses the potty.

Bunny getting a wipe

Bunny getting a wipe (note the strategically placed toddler…for privacy).

Kitty on the potty

Kitty on the potty (Bunny obviously exhausted by the entire process).

Bunny and Kitty leave the bathroom

Bunny and Kitty leave the bathroom (escorted).

Bunny gets a cookie

Bunny gets a cookie for a –ahem–job well done.

 

Hoping  our two legged critter will follow Bunny and Kitty’s lead!

Take the road less traveled, Beth

Filed Under: Family Tagged With: bunny, kitty, potty, potty training, wiping

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Some might fend off a mid-life crisis by leaving the comforts of their corporate salary to jet off to a deserted island. Others might buy a Jaguar. I’ve chosen to dive head-long into my 50s and beyond by becoming a first-time parent. At any given moment you might find me holding a camera, a spade, a spatula or a suitcase. Or my little girl's hand. Adopted from Armenia, she puts the Pampers and Paklava into my life.

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